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Don't Fall Into the Pit of Perfectionism

Are you a perfectionist? If so, you may be headed down a road of disappointment. "If your identity is wrapped in the magnificent things you're destined to achieve - as a great writer, musician, scientist, politician, chef - the thought that you might produce something mediocre can be devastating."~Laura Fraser

Do you have to do something great? Can you be happy to do something really good? Do you expect nothing but perfection from yourself? From your children? We must be careful how we teach our children to use their gifts and what it is to expect from those gifts. Don't forget...children learn most by our actions rather than our words, so if you expect perfection from yourself, they will feel you expect it from them as well.  One of my favorite quotes is 'actions speak louder than words.'

There is a monumental difference between talent and having a clue what to do with it. "Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit,in faith, in purity. Till I come, give attention to reading, to exhortation, to doctrine. Do not neglect the gift that is in you, which was given to you by prophecy with the laying on of the hands of the eldership. Meditate on these things; give yourself entirely to them, that your progress may be evident to all.."~1 Timothy 4:12-15    The blessed recipient is responsible for developing and nurturing the integrity, humility, and work-ethic to know what to do with it. Beth Moore's words were "Gift without grit is a pitiful waste." Scripture says, "Faith without works is dead." Every one of us have a particular God-given gift. It will not grow if we don't nurture it. As a matter of fact, if we let it lie, it will stagnate and rot. Nurturing one's gift does not mean, however, that you have to be perfect in it. God's idea of perfect and our idea of perfect are different. Living for the sole purpose of being 'great' can lead to an empty life and may even be deadly.

Working to do something infinitely greater will still quench our desire of the God-given need to matter, but it will also relieve us of the relentless pain of being the "It" person in the center of it.'s not about 'me' anyway! What pressure we put on ourselves when we have that frame of mind!

TO LIVE FOR THE GREATNESS OF GOD IS TO LIVE THE GREAT LIFE. Every one of us who embraces the glory of God as our purpose will end up doing great things precisely because we do God-things. His holy hand resting on even the least of acts renders the ordinary extraordinary. Helping the weak, serving in the nursery at church so a tired mom can go to church, providing a meal to those in need are all acts of high worship when offered in the name of Christ.

"Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?" ~Matthew 16:24-26

"But so shall it not be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister:And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all." Mark 10:43-44

Todd & I try to teach our kids that whatever you do, do it as best as you can. It doesn't have to be perfect, but give it your all, your best; whatever you do, do it as unto God rather than unto man. If you're not giving it your all, then you are cheating yourself AND you are cheating God. Whether it be making your bed, brushing your teeth, being a teammate in whatever sports you participate in...whatever it is, do it for God. Don't do it for yourself nor for others around you. We are born to worship, and everything we do are acts of worship. We must make a choice whom we worship - whom we will serve.  HOW we serve tells much about WHOM we serve and WHOM we worship.

Christ lets us know that He is already great enough for the both of us. We just have to follow Him in EVERYTHING we do. Why wouldn't we want to??
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He loves all things health-related.  
He loves everything nature and outdoors and enjoys long walks every day (weather permitting).
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