It's been a while since I've put my ponders to pen, and a lot more thoughts have been swarming around in my head since my last post. I've penned a total of 5 posts in the year 2015, a year that has proven to bring about major life changes in my family. It's just part of the natural ebb and flow which the tides of life bring about.
The biggest change in our immediate family has been our first born, Grant, graduated high school in May.
About six months have passed, and many adjustments have been made.
#1) College life is an adjustment in itself, with the biggest adjustment being made by the graduate; but it is an adjustment, also, for the whole family. College life is a whole new world, so to speak, and we are adjusting to living in and around this new world. Life as he knew it, and as we knew it, no longer exists.
Friends fly off to their new nests as they attend their respective colleges in different states, never to flock together in their group of 'peeps' as they had so grown accustomed to over the last 2-3 years.
So what do you do when the people you have known over the last 12 years, sometimes 18 years (for those who experienced daycare together) are no longer a part of your life? You start wondering where you belong. The autonomy of adulthood is sometimes not so appealing, but it is oh so essential for learning to live and survive in this world.
One thing is for certain: this new-found independence challenges one to grow up, develop wings, and fly! I am proud to say that Grant is doing a great job adjusting to his new wings! I would say he is soaring!
#2) Realizing that your child has now become the young man you've prayed he would become is bittersweet and humbling. I am confident that he will have many successes. I am confident he will make mistakes, but I am also confident that he will learn from them and will thrive!
I have lived (hopefully, at least) half my life and I STILL make mistakes! When you stop making mistakes, you stop learning.
As time has passed over these last few months, 'TRUST' has been THE word for me. I am learning that this little word encompasses not only a vast space in my world but also covers a multitude of areas.
Todd & I, as parents, are learning how to trust this new world in which Grant is living with his new environment, new hopes & ideas, new circumstances and new guidelines (so to speak), which are different for him than they were in high school. Giving him a little bit more rope, a/k/a freedom, in this new world tends to send me over the edge a bit at times....not because I don't trust him, but because he is not the little boy I still sometimes want to imagine he is.
Grant is learning how to trust that the path he is currently travelling is the one God is mapping out for him. He is learning who to trust, how to trust, and what trust really means in this new world of his since he is looking through a totally different set of lenses than the ones he'd worn for so long.
As we enter yet another phase of our children's lives, we enter another phase of trust.
Every phase of trust is reduced to but one thing: Trust in God.
With each new phase of life we encounter a deeper trust in God, and we experience a different level of trust in our children and in the decisions they make for their life. That's just it....it's THEIR life, not ours. We can help them, guide them and give them wisdom from our past sucesses and learned mistakes alike, but we cannot live their life for them.
We must trust in God's promise that if we "train up a child in the way that he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." (Proverbs 22:6)
We've had our time of discipleship with Grant. I know it will continue as long as he seeks our guidance, but for the most part, WE are done being in control. (With some exceptions, Grant, if you read this! ☺)
It is time now for him to trust God as he seeks Him first and all of His righteousness, so that everything God has in store for him will come to fruition as he steps into this journey of manhood.
It is time, now, for us to trust God and His promises and put feet to our prayers as we trust in faith.
Through all of the ebbs and flows of my life thus far, I see God's hand not only in my life but in the lives of my children. For every disappointment, God has spoken to us, in one way or another: "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," ... "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts." (Isaiah 55:8-9) -- And HIS plans are much better than any plan we could ever imagine.
I've seen it.
I've lived it.
In every situation, His promises have declared to us that His plans are not for harm but to give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)
It's all about Trust.
For all of the ebbs and flows of life that come my way.....
May my trust be without borders!! (See video below.♫)
"Some trust in chariots and others in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God." ~ Psalm 20:7
"O Lord Almighty, blessed is the man who trusts in you." ~ Psalm 84:12